The Love You Choose

Author: Stina Sanders

Genres: Non-Fiction, Self-help

Across 7 pillars, relationships therapist Stina Sanders compiles her top therapeutic techniques, with accompanying personal stories and interactive exercises, to help readers break free from toxic patterns and dynamics, and instead attract, choose and create lasting relationships.

Like a carefully curated playlist, these can be read and applied in any order, but none are to be skipped. By the end, readers will feel empowered to cross the bridge from awareness (knowing the problem) to action (doing something about it).

We all have unexamined scripts about who we are and what we want. Some of these have been turned into literal transcripts on the internet: from dating profiles and horoscope charts to unsolicited but alluring advice about who to date, red flags to avoid and attachment styles to aspire to. We’re talking about relationships more than ever before. So why are so many of us still stuck in ones ranging from mediocre and unfulfilling to unhealthy and toxic?

Through a combination of case studies and therapeutic tools from CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), TA (Transactional Analysis), EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), Attachment Theory, and others, THE LOVE YOU CHOOSE offers a clear framework for intentional self-assessment and introspection.

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